Note: I’m reposting & restarting my old sex advice column Living In Sin. Enjoy!! Moving to my new blog!
Since everyone’s always coming to me for sex advice. (God knows why)
I’ve decided to answer a question posed by one of my friends.
“I have a question. I am not meaning this to sound harsh, degrading or personally offensive to anyone in any way, it is something I have been pondering for a long while.
What is it about anal sex that makes it so highly valued and coveted, more so then any other sex act? What is it about anal sex that makes it such a big deal breaker (IE if a girl/guy won’t give it up, then their partner cheats, and possibly ends the relationship). I’ve asked many friends about this, and they explained why it feels good to them, but that’s not what I’m wanting to know. What I am wondering is how did anal sex become such a highly valued, prized sex act that relationships can be made and broken on it?”
~Waxing Erotic
My first thoughts on this is any relationship where something sexual is a deal breaker or deal maker, isn’t a good relationship to be in. Relationships to me consist of emotions and feelings. Sexual “relationships” aren’t relationships and if you’re going to enter a “bed buddy” situtation you should always make sure that your interests match up.
Now because I didn’t want to sound like one of those women who think all men are scum (they aren’t, just missguided sometimes) I decided to get my submissive Wynter Wulff involved, partially because anal sex is his forte. He summed it fairly well.
That’s perhaps one of the simplest questions I’ve ever had to answer really — quite frankly it’s prized after so much because it’s just a taboo. It’s just like anything else that is forbidden to us, some of us just want to… no have to experience it. It’s just one of those dark little things some of us [guys and girls] like. Though I know it relates to guys, I’m sure some girls can relate to this too. It’s like when most of us were children, porn was off limits to us… but what happened? The more we were told not to do it, not to indulge in such “entertainment”, the more we sought after it… and I’m sure when you got your little hands on that magazine, movie, or whatever I bet it felt like a prize didn’t it? So to reiterate my bullshit: Anal sex = taboo, and we all know how those things forbidden most to us seem to intrigue us the most. But just as you briefly brushed by on, not everyone is into anal, just like no everyone likes to give oral either… forcing any sex act on a person with out consent is sexual abuse and possibly rape and can result in some harsh punishment for trying to seek such a prize from an unwilling partner… and cheating, well personally that’s just lower and lower. Especially if it’s over something like anal… geeze, get a hobby or something.
Sinfully Yours,
Dirty Geisha