Today, I had lunch with my fellow Sinister Sister. Well I ate she hugged me and vowed vengeance on Babykat. We also inducted a new member into our “gang” so the Sinister Sisters are now a sexy bad ass girl TRIO! Yup, we’re hotness incarnate. Watch out world. I occurs to me they need names. I’ll think of some and update my cast list.

I’ve been so lucky people have been loving on me. Simi and my mum have been so..nice. I really haven’t had female friends like ever. So, right now my Sinister Sisters ARE so important. Mum and Simi doubly so. I have my family-family.

Lately Ume has been so busy with work. Which is fine because I’ve been working my ass off on my print projects. I just miss him! His ex has been being so catty. Nothing I can’t deal with but it’s just a “high school” snot thing to do. I just ignore it.
Ume is worth waiting and cattiness. He’s worth an aching cunt and sore nipples too. I’m just missing talking to him. Miss sharing my stories and cuddles. I miss his voice, calling me Kitten. I hope to see him soon. My mouth aches to say his name.

I’ve launched a new site. I’m officially a Southern Charms girl. I hope Ume will give me some new set ideas. I’m doing an open call for requests. You lovely readers can suggest ideas too. I love new ideas and concepts, so challenge me. You know you want to.

During which I did many things, but most importantly I signed a contract with a porn site which brings me to my weigh in on a very important debate.
Is porn a item of free speech or something that can be regulated?
Pornography on the internet is an interesting debate. People say it’s wrong, and cite religious texts and the ilk. People say it’s right, will tell you its freedom of speech and leave it at that. Neither side look into their rationale beyond their gut reactions that have been colored by religious views or hard lined opinions of the Constitution.
While pornography is freedom of speech, it’s also freedom of choice. You can choose to look, and use safe search filters and use software like net nanny to avoid porn. You can chose to disrobe for the camera or not.
Choosing is what makes us a great nation. However given the current trend of taking away our choice, we should at least fight to keep this one.

As someone who runs a solo girl amateur porn site, rules and laws affect me. I believe there should be rules and regulations to an extent. All models should be over eighteen years of age, and be able to prove it. Outside of that the government shouldn’t be able to censor human sexuality.
Pornography is a form of speech, just like an article or story it is protected by law. Sharing photos and videos is just like running an alternative newspaper. Some people choose to express themselves pornographically.
After all, some of history’s most revered classical works of literature were once deemed pornography. Leading to the point that pornography is difficult to accurately define. It is not just photos and videos its also a term used to describe certain written works and cinematic films. Defining porn is a personal thing. The old quote goes, “I can’t tell you what’s the difference between art and porn, but I’ll know it when I see it.” In choosing to regulate porn, someone must make the rules on what is or is not okay. Who decides? I mean yes all models should be eighteen but after that, what’s up for grabs? Most fetishes are not understood and deemed as dirtier than they actually are.
Porn has always been around and will always be. The internet has just made it easier to access than in the 1970s.
People enjoy skin and will go to great lengths to see it. What’s the harm? Sex is healthy and the dirtier we make it seem the more tempting it will become.

Sinfully Yours,
Lola

Since everyone’s always coming to me for sex advice. (God knows why)
I’ve decided to answer a question posed by one of my friends.
“I have a question. I am not meaning this to sound harsh, degrading or personally offensive to anyone in any way, it is something I have been pondering for a long while.

What is it about anal sex that makes it so highly valued and coveted, more so then any other sex act? What is it about anal sex that makes it such a big deal breaker (IE if a girl/guy won’t give it up, then their partner cheats, and possibly ends the relationship). I’ve asked many friends about this, and they explained why it feels good to them, but that’s not what I’m wanting to know. What I am wondering is how did anal sex become such a highly valued, prized sex act that relationships can be made and broken on it?”
~Waxing Erotic

My first thoughts on this is any relationship where something sexual is a deal breaker or deal maker, isn’t a good relationship to be in. Relationships to me consist of emotions and feelings. Sexual “relationships” aren’t relationships and if you’re going to enter a “bed buddy” situtation you should always make sure that your interests match up.
Now because I didn’t want to sound like one of those women who think all men are scum (they aren’t, just missguided sometimes) I decided to get my submissive Wynter Wulff involved, partially because anal sex is his forte. He summed it fairly well.
That’s perhaps one of the simplest questions I’ve ever had to answer really — quite frankly it’s prized after so much because it’s just a taboo. It’s just like anything else that is forbidden to us, some of us just want to… no have to experience it. It’s just one of those dark little things some of us [guys and girls] like. Though I know it relates to guys, I’m sure some girls can relate to this too. It’s like when most of us were children, porn was off limits to us… but what happened? The more we were told not to do it, not to indulge in such “entertainment”, the more we sought after it… and I’m sure when you got your little hands on that magazine, movie, or whatever I bet it felt like a prize didn’t it? So to reiterate my bullshit: Anal sex = taboo, and we all know how those things forbidden most to us seem to intrigue us the most. But just as you briefly brushed by on, not everyone is into anal, just like no everyone likes to give oral either… forcing any sex act on a person with out consent is sexual abuse and possibly rape and can result in some harsh punishment for trying to seek such a prize from an unwilling partner… and cheating, well personally that’s just lower and lower. Especially if it’s over something like anal… geeze, get a hobby or something.

Sinfully Yours,
Lola