First things first! I’m proud to announce, The Dirty Geisha Perfumery is now open!
My perfumes are natural and totally vegan! Best part? At $5 a bottle it won’t break the bank.
I have magical scents and flirty and sensual scents for all tastes and needs.

My first feature scent is Undefined Lust..

This one packs a one two love punch! A heady intoxicating perfume featuring Pumpkin and Chocolate and a little something for you herbal fans out there.

Undefined Lust

Now, on to things that are stupid and hateful. So, Ume has been MIA for about a week. Work has consumed his soul. This morning I actually had some time to stroll on the net when I get these.

(16:47:49 §) dave PRIVATELY whispers to .:[B]:.: surely you don’t think Ume is true to you……..he has numerous girls he talks with, tell them how they captivate him like no other
(16:48:06 §) dave PRIVATELY whispers to .:[B]:.: How he thinks about them often.

I of course ignore this “dave” fellow whom I’ve never met. He disappears after delivering them. I find these laughable because:

A. Ume and I are poly. We are allowed to play with others. I will return to him. He will return to me we have a bond that is different.

B. He hasn’t been around enough to be unfaithful. He would at least email me while being “untrue” this much I know.

C. I doubt he’d let me slip away.

There’s a million other reasons but those are the first ones that came to mind. To be honest, I think its his ex. Let’s be honest? Why would a guy care? I just don’t think its likely. That’s more of a girl thing, a normal girl thing. Perhaps Because I’m a geek, I just don’t do things like that.

I miss Ume so much I hope he’s able to come to me soon. I know work comes first, but I still miss him. Plus I’ve been so busy email has been piling up. I’ve got things things to tell Ume BUT I’m waiting til he’s on messenger it does make it easier. For stuff like that it’s better face to proverbial face. So he can laugh and quip with me.

Keep your fingers crossed.

But, when I feel alone, my second stepdad’s words creep in and i start to feel the same fear he’d place in me. I start to feel fourteen again unsure of myself and wanting validation. I used to pray.

“Oh, wise and mighty Bast, make these things NOT true. Give me to will to go on and make them eat every unkind thing they’ve ever said.” and she did.

I printed out the nicest comments from my Blog’s guest book. I kept them by my bed. Until Stepdad2 found them and burned them as a “pack of lies”
I printed them out again, this time, i carried them in my bag in the secret back zipper pocket.

It feels good to have reminders. Today, I am better and stronger and mostly over it.

Ume has been a constant wellspring of support. I don’t doubt him, I take everything he says as truth. After all he really has no reason to lie to me. Really.
He loves my nerdity and my geekgasm and girly wood moments as much as he loves my screaming in orgasm moments. As I’ve said with him I’m a pretty whole.

I accept that. Even if that little stepdad2 voice kicks in.

A submissive, (me or you) can not truly be a good submissive unless they give themselves totally. This means two things (to me) examining why you want to be this person submissive in the first place. And accepting who you are, and be willing to ask your Master’s help and support in self improvement. Remember you have to want to improve for you, not your Owner.

So. If you’re thinking of paring up you should really be able to answer these questions. Feel free to use mine as guidepost not a guideline!

1. Why do I want to belong to Ume?
Simply put, He’s Ume. My Ume now that I’ve met him, i can’t imagine my life without him. I want to be his because he is kind and generous. He’s VERY Patient with me and always speaks in a loving tone. Even if i’ve made him mad or sad. I want to give him my rarest love, the thing which is growing inside my heart. I want to try to my very best not from a spiteful place anymore but, to make him proud of me. He sees me as Lola first. He respects me as a Dominant and sees me as a partner, who happens to be submissive to him.
I know he’ll nurture me. He won’t deprive me of anything, he likes me as I am. I like him as him. Plus he encourages the geekgasms in me.

I don’t have to hide anything, ever. That is why I wish to belong to Ume.

2. Things I accept about me.
I am a great and rare beast. I have a loving heart and a wicked mind. I’m a big breasted geek girl capable of some pretty big Codex (The Guild) moments, but I want help in being better at managing them. They are usually groundless fears because I’m getting to a place where I’m giving my heart, that’s scary. (I bet deep down, Ume’s scared just a bit.)
I have acknowledged it’s past trauma but its PAST. I am letting it go. Ume has done Nothing but support my tantrum-y little ass. I love him for that.